Let’s see how it goes? NO!

So the year is two weeks old already! And it honestly feels like year Two Thousand and Fly! Cos when did we get here anyway?

I bet a lot of us are still pretty much basking in our new year resolves and goals: some blazingly on track! Some slightly off but with the goal still very much in sight! And some…. way off tangent already! Now whatever category it is you fall into – do not dismay! Things can still be set back in order! Honey, we’re only two weeks old, you can still bend us -but hey! Don’t break us!

I can already tell you that I have learnt a few lessons this year. One would be to almost entirely do away with the phrase “let’s see how it goes”! No! you aint! More often than not, It will instead just go!

Now let me explain, “seeing how it goes” is pretty much leaving it to the wind to take charge of and this is no way you want to handle something you are DELIBERATE or INTENTIONAL about! You need to lock that deal? Lock it! You need to know if someone is coming to visit you or not? Get an answer – No, “demand” an answer! I am not imploring people to be standoff-ish, I am only emphasizing that you do yourself the greatest disservice to stand within the premises of what you want/need only to just “see how it goes”.

Relating this to the prompt for this post:

I recently decided to put up my sewing machines for sale – beautiful babies man! Industrial units barely used! (all sold now though with the exception of the unit I am taking with me! story for another post!). I put them up on a whatsapp group which I belonged to and got a number of people contact me and had three who were seemingly persistent who had shown keen interest and had booked time to come in and have the machines inspected.

The first two people came in on the same day and had said they would revert – Let’s call them Mr A and Mr B for ease of telling the story. Fast-forward to the 12th of January, the third person contacted me asking if she could come see the machines and pick them up (if they met her taste). Now I had two people who had indicated interest already! Was there any need entertaining a third?  Was saying “I want it enough?”  well maybe! 

Torn between allowing yet another potential buyer come see the machines and my waiting list of people who had indicated interest, I had reached out to the previous two, letting them know that a third person intended to come have a look (I probably didn’t need to, but I do like to take your word for it till otherwise proven) but got no response till the next day after which I eventually sent the lady my address to come have a look!

Fast-forward tape to when the girl arrived – January 13th. I then get a response from Mr B – one of the previous people who had inspected the machines and I am thrown into utter disarray! What to do? The girl is here, with her husband! They’ve inspected, and decided to take it! they are dismantling already! It’s going into the trunk of a car! My head is spinning. In between! I am speaking to Mr B trying to explain the situation, I can feel his heart sink and mine sink even lower! The over-joyed buyer is asking if I am alright, it takes more than a snap to pull me out of the enclave of the phone call, the dilemma, the reality! I put myself together and say to the lady (with the most contradicting facial expression I imagine) – Enjoy your purchase.

As they drive out, a part of me is happy it’s all done and the other part – sad.

I was the seller, quite frankly anyone could have had it as long as I got value for it! However the hurt of realizing this other person missed it not because they didn’t want it – but more because they had kinda decided to “see how it goes” and there was nothing definite per say by way of an agreement as to which he wanted and when he wanted it by and by the time I got an affirmative response, an inspection had become a sale!

I felt bad and would hold this lesson dearly – even for myself!

Quit seeing how it goes! You need to be a lot more deliberate to make things happen! I stumbled over a caption that said “what will be will be” ? No! “What will be – will require some effort still – TO BE!”

Don’t leave it to chance anymore! You want it? Go get it!

I am happy to read from you if you’ve had similar experiences.

Till then, Astalavista guys! Go make your world intentionally Great!

Xoxo

Tola